You may have a difficult time trusting yourself. Don’t despair. You are not alone. It is something that many people experience, and find it difficult to overcome. When you lose trust in others, you start to lose trust in yourself. Below are some tips to increase trust in yourself.
To help you overcome this problem, you need to focus on key aspects of trust. The first is to have faith in your accomplishments. If you pass off your accomplishments as not being that important, when you need to rely on them, they won’t be there for you. That is sure to interrupt the process of trusting yourself.
You also need to trust your instincts. You won’t always be right, but you will be more often than not. An instinct is something you feel strongly about and does not come only from experiences.
They come from something internal that no one can truly explain. It’s part of that inner voice that is telling you what to do. You need only to listen. How many times have you said to yourself that you should have listened to your instincts?
You should rely on other people. If you open yourself up to letting others into your life, you will find that you become more trusting of yourself. Whether you like it or not, you need other people.
You can’t know everything there is to know about every subject. Use the strengths of others to supplement what you know. It will take the burden away from you to do everything. That will help open the possibilities to put trust in yourself.
Try to filter out negative information. You get bombarded with this throughout your life. It occurs every day in the news, at work, and in many cases, your home.
The more you learn to focus on positivity in your life, the easier it will be to trust yourself. A good first step towards this goal is to avoid negative people. They work hard to try to bring you down.
Trusting yourself sometimes requires a leap of faith. Take some chances. While you want to be smart regarding the risks of your choices, you don’t want to overanalyze every decision you make. If you do, you will never make any decisions, and you will stagnate. I always tell myself to have faith.
It’s true that not everything will work out the way you plan. But, you will never know unless you try.
The good news is when you are ready to try, many of your decisions will work for you. Trust yourself and have faith.
So, what is a mentor and why do you need one? This is the topic of discussion today. Read the article or go to the bottom of the article to listen to the audio recording. You cannot know everything there is to know about how to get where you want to be in life. Am I right?
While it’s possible to learn the needed skills, this will take time and likely a lot of money. Instead, what if you had someone (or a group of people) who can help guide you to success? Wouldn’t you like that opportunity?
So, What Is A Mentor?
A mentor is someone who currently is where you want to be in your business. The relationship you have with a mentor can be an official one, or it can be informal such as following in the footsteps of someone you admire. Mentors have experience and have gone through the growing pains towards business success. They will know what kinds of training you may need help with or skills to develop.
What Do They Actually Do?
A mentor can give you needed feedback on what you are doing right and wrong during your development. This kind of advice is invaluable. Likewise, you don’t want a mentor who will hold back.
Make sure you give them full permission to be completely honest with you. Most worthwhile mentors will have no problems doing this for you. It may be a hard pill to swallow, but you will be better off than having a mentor who sugarcoats your progress. That won’t help you in any way, I know this from experience.
How You Should Choose One
The mentors you choose should have the experience or skills you desire to learn. Be sure to ask lots of questions about what they expect from you and ask what you can expect from them. This expectation is extremely important. Otherwise, you won’t have any means of knowing whether the mentoring relationship is working.
If someone you are considering to mentor you take issue with you asking these questions, this is a sign they may not be right for you. It can also be more difficult to sever the relationship once it has begun so remember that.
Paid or Free – You Decide
Should you pay for mentors? It depends on what you currently have available at your disposal. Also, what you intend to receive from this kind of arrangement. If, as previously mentioned, there is someone who can act in a mentor capacity and they are willing to do this for free, then consider doing it.
On the other hand, paying for someone to help you lets you hold them accountable. This is a crucial aspect of mentoring. Without it, you could be spinning your wheels, going nowhere. You don’t want to waste time as the entire reason to take on a mentor is to save time in getting you further in your development.
If you are looking for a mentor, I offer 1×1 mentoring services. Go here to look at what I offer and how you can get started.
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Are you where you want to be in your virtual assistant business right now? Today we’re going to discuss how you can use 3 Strategies to Help Reach Your Goals.
Because every successful business owner needs goals, am I right?
So, did you set goals at the beginning of the year, only to tuck them away and never look at them again? Oh my gosh, you didn’t do that, did you?
If you did, don’t beat yourself up about it. Today is a new day, so course correct and start working on what you really want your business and life to look like.
Here are 3 ways you can start working on your goals right now:
Set Goals
I don’t believe it’s ever too late to create goals and a plan to achieve them. Yes, some people do like to take some time at the end or beginning of the year to work on their goals (I’m one of those people.) If that’s you—or you want it to be—continue to read this article to help you with your own plan.
There is really no “right” time to work on this kind of thing. I think it’s less important when you do it and more important that you just do it, get started, and keep checking in with yourself along the way.
That’s how I like to tackle it. Yes, I create goals for myself at the end of the year, but then I keep them somewhere I can see them every day. I work on tasks that will make those goals happen. And then I regularly check in to see if I’m making progress.
Start the Day with Intention
I have a quick and easy way that I start my day so that I’m in the right mindset and stick with tasks that will help me reach my goals. I’ve always wanted to be that person who starts their day out with meditation and then takes 20 minutes to journal, sitting in a quiet space with a cup of coffee.
But let’s face it—that’s not my life.
First of all, I’m NOT a morning person. As much as I’d like to be, I’m just not and that’s ok. But here’s what I do when I start my day. First, I grab a cup of coffee and then get on Facebook on my personal profile to welcome everyone to a new day. This has become a ritual that I started a couple of years ago and everyone knows that if I don’t do that morning post, something is definitely up with me. They get worried and ask me if everything is ok.
After breakfast and getting myself ready for the day I go to my office to really begin my day. One of the first things I do is open my personal email to look for my email from “Notes from the Universe”. I love my “Notes” because they are so perfect for my goals and intentions for my business.
If you need a little more help to switch your mindset around to that of a successful entrepreneur, you can try this:
If you want one more way to really tap into making things happen for you, I highly recommend you have a “Goal Journal”. Here’s where you can put all the goals that you can reference to keep you on track. I go through mine every quarter to make sure I’m doing what I need to do to get to where I want to go. This is a valuable tool you can use year after year.
So, here’s a quick recap. Set goals. Work on them daily. Start your day with intention. Believe that you CAN achieve your goals.
What are your thoughts? Have you tried any of the strategies above?
Leave a comment and let me know what works for you.
Are you where you want to be in your virtual assistant business right now? Did you set goals at the beginning of this year, only to tuck them away and never look at them again? Below I’m going to show you the 3 strategies to help reach your goals.
If that’s you, don’t beat yourself up about it. Today is a new day, so course correct and start working on what you really want your business and life to look like.
Here are 3 ways you can start working on your goals right now:
Set Goals that are Measurable
I don’t believe it’s ever too late to create goals and a plan to achieve them. Yes, some people like to take time at the end or the beginning of the year to work on their goals (I’m one of those people.). If that’s you—or you want it to be—continue to read this article to help you with your own plan.
There is really no “right” time to work on this kind of thing. I think it’s less important when you do it and more important that you just do it. Get started and keep checking in with yourself along the way.
That’s how I like to tackle it. Yes, I create goals for myself at the end of the year, but then I keep them somewhere I can see them every day. I work on tasks that will make those goals happen. And then I regularly check-in to see if I’m making progress.
Start the Day with Intention
I have a quick and easy way that I start my day so that I’m in the right mindset and stick with tasks that will help me reach my goals. I’ve always wanted to be that person who starts their day out with meditation and then takes 20 minutes to journal, sitting in a quiet space with a cup of coffee. Is that you?
But let’s face it—that’s not my life. First of all, I’m NOT a morning person. As much as I’d like to be, I’m just not and that’s ok.
My Successful “Start my Day Plan”
Here’s what I do when I start my day. First, I grab a cup of coffee and then get on Facebook on my personal profile to welcome everyone to a new day. This has become a ritual that I started a few years ago and everyone knows that if I don’t do that morning post, something is definitely up with me. They get worried and ask me if everything is alright.
After breakfast and getting myself ready for the day I go to my office to really begin my day. One of the first things I do is open my personal email to look for my email from “Notes from the Universe”. I love my “Notes” because they are so perfect for my goals and intentions for my business.
If you need a little more help to switch your mindset around to that of a successful entrepreneur, you can try this:
If you want one more way to really tap into making things happen for you, I highly recommend you have a “Goal Journal”. Here is an excellent place where you can put your goals you can reference to keep you on track. I go through mine every quarter to make sure I’m doing what I need to do to get to where I want to go. This is a valuable tool you can use year after year.
So, here’s a quick recap. Set goals. Work on them daily. Start your day with intention. Believe that you CAN achieve your goals.
What are your thoughts? Have you tried any of the strategies above? Leave a comment and let me know what works for you.
There’s no denying that working from home offers many advantages. In many ways it’s the ultimate freedom; you get to set your own hours, working when, where and how you want. Below, I list out some of the very Pitfalls To Watch Out For When Working From Home.
AND, there are also a number of potential pitfalls you need to be aware of and watch out for. You will risk turning your home-based job into an unproductive nightmare. YIKES!!
The #1 spot…Failing to keep business and private life separate
This is one of THE most common issues for people who work from home, especially those who are self-employed. When the home office is “right there”, it can be hard to stay away even if you should really be off work for the day.
Before you know it, you’ll have spent another few hours of your precious weekend at work. This is the fast track to burning out, and something you must learn to avoid if you want to be successful working from home.
Definition
pitfall [ˈpitˌfôl] NOUN a hidden or unsuspected danger or difficulty. synonyms: hazard · danger · risk · peril · difficulty · issue · problem · catch · snag · stumbling block · drawback · banana skin a covered pit used as a trap.
Not planning your work…mic drop!
This mostly applies to people who are self-employed and may not have a boss telling them what to do every day. When you’re working on your own projects, planning is an absolute must.
If the first thing you ask yourself when you start your day is “Ok, what am I going to do today?”, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. It’s much better to plan out the next day before you go off work in the evening, so you’re ready to get started first thing in the morning.
Working at irregular times – don’t do this!
When you’re free to set your own hours, it doesn’t mean that you should only work “whenever you feel like it”. Chances are after a few months that you’ll rarely feel like it at all, especially when there are so many fun distractions around the house.
That’s why it’s better to try to stick to working the same hours every day, even if it might resemble a “real job” a bit too much for your liking.
You can always take breaks during the day if you need to recharge, but try to at least go into your office around the same time if you want productivity levels to stay high.
AND Tada…
Not getting out of the house regularly – who would have thought?
When you work from home there is usually very little motivation to go outside.
You’ve got everything you need at home anyway, right?
That’s true, but after a whole week you’ll most likely be feeling isolated and lonely, and that’s perfectly normal.
That’s why it’s so important to make time for little things like grabbing lunch with a friend – something as simple as that can really boost your energy and make your working week easier and less lonely.
You might be surprised to learn that the BIGGEST obstacle to your personal freedom is right between your ears. Personal Freedom Begins in Your Mind Yup…A negative mindset is the biggest block to freedom. Woah…….
There are so many parts of your life you cannot control, from the need to earn a living to finding true love. 🙄 But you CAN control your mindset, your thoughts, and how you act in the world.
So how can you overcome your psychological blocks and open your mind to achieve greater freedom?
Here’s the thing ➡ Just do it!
Change the record
Everyone has a constant inner monologue; what psychologists call self-talk. And most of the time, yours is probably set to negative. Any messages you get in childhood about being bad, hopeless or selfish or stupid all get absorbed in your malleable child’s brain and resurface in adulthood as your Inner Critic.
Do you have that? Is it bugging YOUall… day… long?
The good news is that you can reprogramyour Inner Critic and turn it into an Inner Coach.
Womp womp…
Make a list of all the negative things your Inner Critic says. Be alert for phrases that start ‘you always or ‘you never.’ Watch out for ‘shoulds’ too. Then take each negative message and turn into a positive one.
How do you do that?
Change your self-talk broken record to a new track full of encouragement and positivity. Come on…you can do it!
Change your expectations
Studies have shown that the most significant contributors to success or failure are your expectations. Happy people expect things to go well and mistakes or problems do not crush them, they see them only as temporary setbacks. Conversely, if the expectation is to fail any issue will confirm the expectations, and you won’t try again.
Expecting things to work out is NOTwishful thinking; it is choosing to be positive no matter what the circumstances.
Now get in here and do what?
Change your focus
Modern society trains us to be dissatisfied with what we have now and constantly strive for bigger, better and shinier. You can choose to step outside of this and be grateful for what you have right now.
OH MY GOD! Did ya just hear me say that?
GRATITUDE
Developing a habit of gratitude frees you from this pressure and affects the structure of your brain. Studies show that the more you feel grateful, the more resilient you become in the face of life’s ups and downs. Imagine that!
You feel happier with what you have and more open to receiving. Even better, you rewire the neural pathways in your brain so that your mindset defaults to positivity.
This is DEEP…
You start to see the good things BEFORE you notice the bad. Over time, you perceive life as positive, and your expectations change.
You free yourself from the burden of negativity! YESSS!!
